I've got a question for you. Do you think, as we go through life, that people make various life choices in the course of their lives- that they are always happy with? More to the point, do you think the decisions that are made are generally good options or do we tend to make bad judgements from time to time? Then again, is it possible that the actions we take in our life are simply "okay" options?
Now that I think about it, we usually don't even think about whether our actions are good or bad - we just do them.
But, when we do decide to be proactive and start actively thinking about the choices we make . . . maybe we are asking ourselves the wrong question.
Instead of asking if our soon to be made decision is right, wrong or okay - maybe we should ask instead;
"Is it WISE"?
Puts things into a new perspective.
Think about it. Lots of things we do are okay.
There is nothing illegal about going out to lunch with a business partner of the opposite sex.
Certainly it is not wrong to dance with that same person at a holiday party? (So you're married...or he is).
What's the harm in being willing to give him a listening ear? (Too bad things are going so poorly with his insensitive wife). It's a good thing you are there for him.
Can you help it if you need him to give you a ride home? Hmmm...he is a lot better looking now that the lights are low and you know his heart. Surely it wouldn't hurt to stop by his house for a cup of coffee before you go home...but things get out of hand.
Days, weeks, months or even years later...you are kicking yourself for your mistakes. 'If only you knew. If only you could go back in time and change things, everything would be different'.
Well, I've got news for you that really isn't news.
You will never be able to go back in time nor will you ever be able to look into the future.
The scenario above was just a scenario - but a very common one. There are thousands of others..but you get the picture.
None of those actions in and of themselves were neccesarily wrong - but they were unwise.
Are you one of the millions of people that has dealt with poor choices in the past or perhaps you are dealing with a circumstance right now that doesn't feel completely right - but you haven't done anything wrong. Not really.
Obviously, you can do whatever you want. Your decisions are yours to make. Many people don't want to say "no" simply because they are too concerned with image. "What will people think of me? They'll think I'm a prude. People will think I'm weird."
Newsflash. This is YOUR life. You have to live with yourself and the decision of your choices every day for the rest of your life. The people you are concerned about aren't going to be living your life for you. So...
If you find you are flirting with danger and skirting the issue, chances are you are:
Dancin On the Line.